Today's TLA of the day is PPP
Purpose Produces Passion
I have been reading Purpose Driven Life, by Warren, and this is one of his quotations in his book. It is a good book to realize that we have to lead a God-centered life and not self-centered one. I am on day 10, there are 30 more days, but hopefully a long life to master all the lessons. Anyways, my friend Howard asked an interesting question this week he simply asks "How do you know when someone is the "one" you want to marry?" Here is my response.
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I have no idea how I would know who is the "one" woman for me. Believe me after 25 years, I have no idea. Am I looking for the one? Or the one right now? The quotation from Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind "How come I fall in love with every girl who gives me any attention?" I don't know but that's how I feel at times... Its really bad, but like I take it to 85% all the time, when I should really just take it to 40% or 30% when I first meet a girl... I should really follow my P.I.C. essay. It is a hard, and I am trying to work on it. Anyways, the "one" must be my friend. Friendship is a must virtue, because if that woman and myself can not be friends then why would I want to marry someone who is not my friend. By friendship, I mean not an acquaintance or a girl I talk to once in a while, or a girl who is cute in a club/bar. I think Gil has said before said that in one's lifetime, there will only be 5 true friends. So 1/5 has to be my wife. That is pretty hard. Anyways here is an enumeration of other virtues for "the one". Also, I don't know if this is a realistic list, so here it is.
She has to have a God-centered philosophy, instead of a self-centered one.
She has to be selfless.
She has to have a positive attitude about life, because no one wants to hang out with someone who is always negative.
She has to be good with kids.
She has to have attainable realistic life goals.
She has to have a caring, kind, and compassionate heart for other people.
She has to be a woman I can envision growing old with.
She has to be fun to be around.
She has to know me, and still want to hang out with me.
She has to smile more often than frown.
She has to be smarter than me, because I do really stupid things sometimes.
She has to know what she wants, indicisive passive aggressive girls is just a turn off.
She has to be confident in herself and in her skills.
She has to be a talker, a people person, but she also has to be a good listener.
She has to be a good learner and even a better teacher.
She has to be able to look good even without any make up.
She has to be good with money (saving, investments, etc.), but not money-centered.
She has to like spending quality time with me.
She has to be passionate about something in her life.
She has to be unique.
She has to be driven.
She has to be able to laugh at herself and at funny stupid things I do.
She has to have a spontaneous random side in her personality.
She has to be open with changes in her life.
Finally, I think she has to like me, before she loves me.
On the side, This was my conversation with my coworker his initials are DC.
jozinho: hey i got a personal question for ya, so like my friend asks this generic question for all his single and married friends.
jozinho: he simply asks, How do you know when someone is the "one" you want to marry?
dc: i heard an interesting quote
dc: "If you can live without her, do."
dc: meaning, you know she's the one if you can't live without her.
dc: lots of people ask if they can live with them, that's the wrong question
He has been married for 2 years now and he essentially says, if you find a girl you can not live
with out then you found her. That's pretty profound.
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Enjoy,
Jonathan
Purpose Produces Passion
I have been reading Purpose Driven Life, by Warren, and this is one of his quotations in his book. It is a good book to realize that we have to lead a God-centered life and not self-centered one. I am on day 10, there are 30 more days, but hopefully a long life to master all the lessons. Anyways, my friend Howard asked an interesting question this week he simply asks "How do you know when someone is the "one" you want to marry?" Here is my response.
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I have no idea how I would know who is the "one" woman for me. Believe me after 25 years, I have no idea. Am I looking for the one? Or the one right now? The quotation from Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind "How come I fall in love with every girl who gives me any attention?" I don't know but that's how I feel at times... Its really bad, but like I take it to 85% all the time, when I should really just take it to 40% or 30% when I first meet a girl... I should really follow my P.I.C. essay. It is a hard, and I am trying to work on it. Anyways, the "one" must be my friend. Friendship is a must virtue, because if that woman and myself can not be friends then why would I want to marry someone who is not my friend. By friendship, I mean not an acquaintance or a girl I talk to once in a while, or a girl who is cute in a club/bar. I think Gil has said before said that in one's lifetime, there will only be 5 true friends. So 1/5 has to be my wife. That is pretty hard. Anyways here is an enumeration of other virtues for "the one". Also, I don't know if this is a realistic list, so here it is.
She has to have a God-centered philosophy, instead of a self-centered one.
She has to be selfless.
She has to have a positive attitude about life, because no one wants to hang out with someone who is always negative.
She has to be good with kids.
She has to have attainable realistic life goals.
She has to have a caring, kind, and compassionate heart for other people.
She has to be a woman I can envision growing old with.
She has to be fun to be around.
She has to know me, and still want to hang out with me.
She has to smile more often than frown.
She has to be smarter than me, because I do really stupid things sometimes.
She has to know what she wants, indicisive passive aggressive girls is just a turn off.
She has to be confident in herself and in her skills.
She has to be a talker, a people person, but she also has to be a good listener.
She has to be a good learner and even a better teacher.
She has to be able to look good even without any make up.
She has to be good with money (saving, investments, etc.), but not money-centered.
She has to like spending quality time with me.
She has to be passionate about something in her life.
She has to be unique.
She has to be driven.
She has to be able to laugh at herself and at funny stupid things I do.
She has to have a spontaneous random side in her personality.
She has to be open with changes in her life.
Finally, I think she has to like me, before she loves me.
On the side, This was my conversation with my coworker his initials are DC.
jozinho: hey i got a personal question for ya, so like my friend asks this generic question for all his single and married friends.
jozinho: he simply asks, How do you know when someone is the "one" you want to marry?
dc: i heard an interesting quote
dc: "If you can live without her, do."
dc: meaning, you know she's the one if you can't live without her.
dc: lots of people ask if they can live with them, that's the wrong question
He has been married for 2 years now and he essentially says, if you find a girl you can not live
with out then you found her. That's pretty profound.
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Enjoy,
Jonathan
